My Relationship!

Sunday, April 11, 2021 Pittsburgh, PA, USA



Talking about my relationship ...

If you've followed me for a while, then you probably have a good idea of what I've been through and where I'm at. If you're new here ... that might be better. 😅

Some of my previous relationships were absolute nightmares. I experienced abuse in all its shapes and forms. I dealt with sexual assault, coercion, and rape within a relationship. Verbal, emotional, and mental abuse. Gaslighting, manipulation, threats, intimidation, physical violence, isolation, economic abuse ... you name it.

They were karmic relationships that were definitely set in my path to break generational curses. I have no doubt about this. I'm not sure if the cycle is fully broken but I know that at the very least I've shortened the fuse. I'm really hoping that all the work I've done coupled with the amazing relationship I have now will be enough to clear my daughter's path. 

So, after all the nightmares what's love like now?!?

Have you ever met someone good? Like just genuinely nice with a finely tuned moral compass? Someone with realistic relationship expectations and complete confidence in what you two have together? Yeah, I hadn't either .... Until I met my current boyfriend. 



This is sappy. I'm always cringy when I talk about him. This man is 100% one of my soulmates. Absolutely. He is my best friend. This man is one of my daughter's best friends and such an amazing role model. I have never laughed and had so much fun in a relationship. He's someone I can act absolutely ridiculous around and he is right there matching my energy. His laugh is contagious, and his smile was one of the first things I fell in love with.


He came into my life at a time when I was really hurting. I was still healing and I would have these terrible panic attacks, and he would just hold me. I'd be full-on ugly sobbing and he would just be there playing with my hair while my head was in his lap. He always completely understood me and helped me weather the storms. 


It's been almost 3 years with this man. Three years of being treated like ... like how I'd want my daughter to be treated in a relationship. I still have these moments where I can’t believe that I have this. I feel like I’ve struck gold. 


They say that the honeymoon phase of a relationship lasts about 6 months to 2 years. With the end of the month being our 3-year anniversary, I'd bet the house that this is the real deal. I found it. 


Heart Smiles,
Sophia 




If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship or needs help, please reach out.  Knowledge is power and there are people everywhere ready to help. Love shouldn't hurt. 

The National Domestic Violence Hotline - www.thehotline.org

National Dating Abuse Helpline - www.loveisrespect.org

National Child Abuse Hotline/Childhelp - www.childhelp.org

National Sexual Assault Hotline - www.rainn.org

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

National Center for Victims of Crime - www.victimsofcrime.org


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